Communication that asserts an idea, opinion or delegation of a task using some form of humiliation is aggressive communication.

Humiliation includes, yelling, blaming, defining, hitting or any other aggressive act. There is no room for aggression in communication. Communication should always and only ever be facilitative.

Aggressive communication is debilitative. Anything that is debilitative breaks things down, apart or in some way does not lead to a healthy interpersonal exchange.

Communication does not have to be yelling or hitting for it to be aggressive; Remember, aggression means that some degree of humiliation is included. An example can be found in the following sentence: Can you please wash the dishes, you never do them? This sentence is aggressive because to affirm that someone never does something is aggressive and is humiliating.

In communication, no one wants to hear that they are bad, unworthy or that they never do something; Such words as, “you never” defines someone else and humans will almost always feel defensive if they are told that they are something or that they always and never do things.

The proper way to speak and communicate would be to simply say or ask: Can you wash the dishes? There is no humiliation involved and the assertion of the idea was communicated. This is assertive communication…see assertive communication